Chris Brown and his mother Joyce Hawkins on Larry King Live in 2009
where he said he’d prove to be a positive role model for his young fans.
Tell me how he’s such a great performer and I need to drop it…
Tell me how Rihanna seems to like bad boys and shouldn’t have gotten him upset, or that she asked for it…
Tell me how someone like Charlie Sheen have a lengthy list of violence against women and gets a pass, so Chris should too…
Tell me how _________ is such a great song, and it’s all about the music.
Tell me how I need to forgive people’s mistakes and allow for folks to be human.
Tell me how I need to get a life and stop hatin’…
Here’s the bottom line on this: Chris Brown is a role model, whether we like it or not.
For those unfamiliar with the term, here is a short video regarding the phrase ‘No Homo’
Chris and Frank apparently have had issues going back to 2011 and included this footage of Brown’s cousins chasing Ocean. I wrote a previous Higher Unlearning piece exploring Chris Brown’s childhood and history with violence. We go into detail about his history of violent and homophobic behaviour including a true account of his violence towards Rihanna.
So, as we explain in that post, Chris loves to go to Twitter and make spontaneous comments, the more controversial ones usually disappear. In classic Chris Brown form, here is his response to the uproar over the No Homo comment.
…so we continue to point the ‘wrong fingers’. “readabookbitch” …his maturity has clearly maintained the status quo, but here is where it matters.
As of July 30th, Brown has close to 11 million followers on Twitter. I’d assume many are female fans, with male fans following him as well. Brown’s fans are affectionately called ‘Team Breezy’ and defend their fav singer with a feverish passion. They also clearly have learned well from him and follow along with Brown’s mature example of handling situations . During the 2012 Billboard Awards in May, model Chrissy Teigen took to her Twitter account (as did others) to critique a seemingly bad lip-synced Chris Brown’s performance.
- “So excited to see Chris Brown! I love loud and surprising background fits of rage I can hear from the audience”
- “Why sing when you can dance?”
The following is a small sample of the hundreds of replies, comments and death threats toward Teigen as a result of her observations:
- “b**** who the f*** are you hoe? you unknown b****. you need some D*** in yo life? u mod? cause he winning.. b**** get a life”
- “All you do is talk s**t, you need to be raped and murdered.”
- “I don’t beat women, but you are one b**** I will make an exception for.”
- “you’re a f****** hoe and I hope someone kicks her f****** a**!!!!!”
- “Why you yelling, young thing? RT @mrsdorsey4life ONE MORE THING DON’T BE HATIN ON BREEZY CAUSE HES OUR F***** KING WE OBEY HIM”
- “i hope someone tortures you alive so you can feel the pain & i can hear your amusing screams for help
These hundreds of tweets from Team Breezy calling for Chrissy Teigen to be killed or raped led to her boyfriend, another Grammy award-winning singer John Legend, defending her on Twitter.
Chris Brown finally responded to his fans rabid attack, to get them to stop the violent behaviour, he sent out the following:
“Team Breezy! Lets stop sending death threats!…I know y’all bout that life but it’s the wrong message! Ur turning haters into victims!”
Again, the message to his fans publicly wishing rape and death on a woman was “I know y’all about that life…but it’s the wrong message…you are turning haters into victims.” What does he mean by ‘that life’? Brown constantly messages and talks to his millions and millions of young fans via social media, and the example he sets for them is there for the world to see in his tweets, his lyrics. his actions…and lack of action. That life, indeed.
Our young men and boys need to see stronger role models and examples of being a man, and our young women and girls need to see these examples as well. These cycles of violence and destructive behaviour and attitudes need to be broken, urgently.
Until we see some accountability from someone claiming to be a role model and ignoring the impact they are having on millions of young devote followers, we have to continue pointing the ‘wrong fingers’.
p.s. Here is a great review of his last record
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Let’s encourage men to embrace being the positive influence they can be in a child’s life.
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