Spoken Word and Words Unspoken: Carlos Andrés Gómez on Young Men in Crisis.

Spoken Word and Words Unspoken: Carlos Andrés Gómez on Young Men in Crisis.

Recently featured on Upworthy, Jeff reflects on the video Higher Unlearning created in collaboration with our dear brother Carlos Andrés Gómez for his incredible poem. There is something about standing in the hallway of a school… watching the students walk by, wondering who these young people might be in the future. A political leader, entertainer or a visionary ushering … Continue reading

Real Men Eat Quiche: Recipes for Manhood

Real Men Eat Quiche: Recipes for Manhood

A look at an ad that’ll leave a bad taste in your mouth, as well as how our relationship with what we eat is spoiled by outdated recipes of gender.     I decided to try going Vegan on Sept 4th.   It was a moment of either congratulation or crisis intervention for some friends.  “Is everything … Continue reading

COME AT ME BRO!! Men and Conflict Resolution

COME AT ME BRO!! Men and Conflict Resolution

Ah yes, boys will be boys…but does it need to be that way? Jeff’s ‘video essay’ looks at how we need to usher in a new way to ‘fight’. ____ It was a sunny day in Vallejo, California when two officers responded to a call regarding a dispute amongst roommates.  The situation, however, quickly became … Continue reading

What’s Your Relationship With Your Relationship?

What’s Your Relationship With Your Relationship?

__ Every year in North America, on February 13th, an annual ritual unfolds…   one that sees large lines of feverish and frenzied men magically materialize in public spaces. Lined up to be the first to get their hands on the newest video game? purchase the latest smartphone? for the urinal at a rock concert??     … Continue reading

What Drives Some Men to Massacre? Part 2

What Drives Some Men to Massacre? Part 2

Jeff Perera reflects on the Newtown tragedy by sharing how violence factored into three middle & elementary schools talks, a week after a shooting in Toronto. The words ‘Hold’ and ‘Secure’ should be words of warmth that wrap around you, not words of fear that wrap around your ribcage so you can’t breath… ___ It’s … Continue reading

What Drives Some Men to Massacre? Part 1

What Drives Some Men to Massacre? Part 1

  When a tragedy like the devastating shootings at Sandy Hook Elementary School in Newtown, Connecticut takes place, two things happen: 1. Everyone wants answers. 2. Few want to discuss causes.   The press swarm and share details like rations to a starved public: the weapons used, the clothes the murderer wore, the guaranteed quotes from shooter’s … Continue reading

Can’t you take a joke?

Can’t you take a joke?

In the first of a series of guest posts on Higher Unlearning, Kate Adach  takes on the issue of taking issue when a joke isn’t funny.  [Warning: This post contains offensive language.]   My friend J.T. posted this on Facebook because he thought it was funny. I didn’t. And I wasn’t alone. Mutual friends of ours wrote to … Continue reading

Is Every Man a Castaway on their own Island?

Is Every Man a Castaway on their own Island?

Are you a sister, mother, daughter, girlfriend, lover, wife or friend trying to connect with a man who is so distant. Do you feel like you are a man stranded on an island and can’t find a way to communicate? You’re not alone.   ____ “No man is an Island…” - John Donne ___ cast·a·way [ˈkɑːstəˌweɪ]   … Continue reading

Fears for Tears: Men and Vulnerability

Fears for Tears: Men and Vulnerability

. “We live in a vulnerable world. And one of the ways we deal with it is we numb vulnerability”. – Brene Brown.   Hey. Do you want to watch a video that is guaranteed make you weep?? Ok, we’ll get to that, but first… about crying… …about that. Whenever my father walked into the room, … Continue reading

Beastie Boy to Man: RIP Adam Yauch

Beastie Boy to Man: RIP Adam Yauch

A thank you to one of the people who inspired him to speak up and speak out: Jeff looks back at growing up with the late Adam Yauch aka MCA. I got teary eyed when I saw on Twitter that Adam Yauch had passed away at the age of 47. It is amazing how art … Continue reading

Fiats of Strength?

Fiats of Strength?

Another example of an ad trying to tell you that being a ‘Real Man’ is a cost paid by Women and felt by Men. As International Anti-Street Harassment Week approaches,  Jeff Perera explores how these streets intersect.  Meet Abarth…   Fiat is an Italian automobile manufacturer that has struggled to make it in the North American … Continue reading

Life after the Game Changer

Life after the Game Changer

With so much conversation about ‘Blurred Lines’ everywhere, guest writer Molly Caudle shares a private moment to help start discussion on clear lines that should never be crossed. I’ve always been a reserved person, quiet, observant, removed. Before it happened there was a bubbly undercurrent that would surface if you were patient. Now there is … Continue reading

T.I., ‘Gender Night’ and Unlearning Misogyny

T.I., ‘Gender Night’ and Unlearning Misogyny

Higher Unlearning is excited to share this guest blog piece by Joel Anderson originally posted by Stop Street Harassment.  *click Joel’s picture for the original article* “As boys, we had to learn that all women and girls deserved better than our crude war-room banter, whether it came at camp or from our favorite musicians. We would need … Continue reading

#ManHug: The Men who MANtain and the Men Who Hug.

#ManHug: The Men who MANtain and the Men Who Hug.

As White Ribbon launches a movement asking men to open up and connect,  Jeff Perera looks back at how Higher Unlearning was born and the reason White Ribbon started #ManHug – So Gentlemen, are you familiar with the ‘Bro-Hug’ ? – Or maybe you do ‘The Side Hug’? – You see, hugs can be awkward for some guys… … Continue reading

Blowing Minds

Blowing Minds

In the second of a series of guest posts on Higher Unlearning, Tuval Dinner from the White Ribbon Campaign shares an experience connecting with young men. Last week I was lucky enough to be invited to speak at the #respect conference for high school students in Hamilton, Ontario put on by the local YWCA. I’ve … Continue reading